You need to be kind. If you are indeed kind, you should be kind to yourself first. We regard this arm-twisting to fix specialities. We take matters into our own hands. We strive and strain, and often end up thwarted. We have good intentions, but the best thing you can do is leave it alone. That battle is not yours; the battle is the Lord’s. Friend, kindness, like a boomerang, always return. Be kind. That’s it!!!